On Self Confidence
“No one can make you feel inferior without your active consent.”
ELEANOR ROOSEVELT
Craft of Communication is a new kind of training company for Managers and Executives who wish to develop their Communication Skills. The company was set up by John Abulafia, the international theatre and opera director. His experience and skills are the bedrock of this new method of training. He is now in great demand as a Management Trainer, Executive Coach and expert in Communication Skills in both the private and public sectors.
Status: a Key Idea, an Essential Skill
The DVD opposite demonstrates the importance of good communication in an issue that faces us all right now - finding a bank that will protect your savings. The issue is Confidence. You need to be absolutely certain that your money will be safe, and confident that your investments could increase in value.
You visit two banks. In both, you meet a distinguished looking man who tells you about the bank’s record in Asset Management.
Both Asset Managers look remarkably alike.
Both deliver exactly the same speech.
But which man - and which bank - do you trust?
Watch the video on the right and then ask yourself these questions:
Then ask yourself how any of these five factors influence the way you feel about both the man and the bank he represents.
Through these clips, and the questions that they raise, you are beginning to explore one of the Key Ideas in Craft of Communication training. It is the most fundamental Concept in acting - Status.
But, of course, the two Asset Managers were played by the same actor. The differences you experience are all rooted in the Status that actor is playing.
The First Asset Manager’s Body Language and Tone of Voice were exhibiting the characteristics of Low Status.
The Second Asset Manager’s Body Language and Tone of Voice were exhibiting the characteristics of High Status.
All actors learn how to raise and lower their Status by making small changes to their posture, eye-contact, breathing, the image they have of the space they occupy, etc… These techniques enable the actor to raise and lower their Status at will. Mastery over Status enables the same actor to play a King or a Servant, a Tycoon or a Tramp.
John Abulafia has adapted all these theatre techniques to enable Craft of Communication clients to control and change the impact they have on others. In the business context, learning how to raise and vary status is a key communication skill.
Once a client learns how to raise their Status at will, we then explore how High Status can help them to
Once clients have mastered Status, we then explore how this key skill can enhance their performance in:
Presentation, Facilitation, Running Meetings, making a point during discussions, dealing with difficult people, groups and/or situations, One to One Meetings with clients or colleagues, Running and Developing a Team, Interviews, Phone and Conference calls, Media Interviews, Video conferencing …. and many other areas of their working life.
It has long been established that:
55% of Communication is our Body Language
38% of Communication is our Tone of Voice
7% of Communication is the words we speak
Source: Michael Argyle: The Psychology of Interpersonal Behaviour. Penguin Books 1978.)
Therefore 93% of Communication is NOT the words we use.
This doesn’t mean words are unimportant: it means they are vulnerable.
If a speaker’s Body Language and Tone of Voice contradict the words, then that speaker’s message will be compromised.
When the 93% (Body Language + Tone of Voice) works against the 7% (Words)a speaker’s ability to communicate a message can be decimated.
“No one can make you feel inferior without your active consent.”
ELEANOR ROOSEVELT
“John has the capacity to bring his wealth of skills to bear on any project. His manner wins the support and confidence of both colleagues and clients and helps them to deliver results well beyond their personal expectations. His direct, plain English vocabulary and coaching style of working makes complete sense to people of all disciplines and he builds relevance to client’s particular working circumstances with confidence and ease.
MARIANNE HILEY: Whitmuir Development